• Nicole Pekurar

It's Okay To Not Be Okay

When my friends and family asked me if I was nervous about moving to a new state, starting a new job and being on my own I would usually shrug and say "I think I'll be fine." When in reality I was terrified. I had never been on my own before! For the first time in my life I had to provide for myself! So, of course, that was terrifying!

Change is sometimes hard to cope with. But we have been conditioned into believing that if we feel uneasy about something then we should keep it to ourselves. For whatever the reason may be, we would rather place the pressure on ourselves to hold back and to keep a lid over our feelings because it's easier to not say anything at all than to come clean and admit what everyone is already thinking.

These days everyone around the world is going through some major changes right now and even though we're all in it together and it'll all be's still okay to be upset about it. These kinds of changes came at us from out of no where; no one could have prepared for any of it and it is no one's fault for whatever changes you are currently going through. Sometimes it just is what it is. And it sucks.

Don't tip toe around your friends and family because you're afraid of hurting their feelings or because you think you don't have the right to feel sad or angry. Let them know how you feel so that they know they aren't the only ones because I'm sure they're feeling it too. And, in turn, you'll feel better getting it off your chest. We're all going through something different, but that's okay. Yeah, change is scary, but it won't be scary forever. So channel that sadness and anger and frustration into something else. Writing, dancing, drawing, exercising, baking, or even just binge watching. Anything that can get you through the day as we take this one day at a time. Together.

Sometimes it's hard to see the bigger picture, the light at the end of the tunnel; just know that it's there. This isn't forever and it will all be okay, but remember that it's okay to not be okay.


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